Hey Missy, I really need some advice. I am 23 years old and it’s time to move on from the pain in my past. I was with my ex for 3 years and found out that he cheated on me more than once. Now, I am terrified of opening my heart to another. I really don’t know how to give myself to another again. I’m scared that they will hurt me like he did. Can you please give me any advice on how to love and let someone love me again?
How do you let the hurt go and allow love back into your life?
Hello love! This question is a tough one for me. I also struggled with moving on from my ex boyfriend for a very long time. I’ve also said things like “I’m done with love,” or “I will never love anyone the way I loved him.” You know the things us girls say to ourselves after a breakup. But, those are just words said in the moment. You will heal and one day will be open to giving and receiving love again.
Before I got to the point of healing crying was my best friend. I cried until all of the tears, hurt and pain were washed away. Until, I could finally say to myself “I can’t do this anymore. I can’t keep putting myself through this it’s time to move on and start living life.” That was the last time I cried over the past because I forgave myself and him.
In order to move on you need to be healed and ready. Never rush into anything! Take your time getting over the fear first before jumping into another relationship. Bringing past hurt will only lead to disaster. Go into the next relationship with a clean mind and heart. You could be missing out on a great person because you’re afraid to open up.
A great friend sent me a quote: “Sometimes a man’s purpose in a woman’s life is to help her become a better woman…for another man.”You may not see it now but the hurt will only make you stronger. Thanks to my ex-boyfriend I know what I deserve and want out of a relationship. So, instead of crying over your ex thank him.
Thank him for showing that you deserve someone who reminds you of how beautiful you are. That you deserve someone who will look at you every day like it’s the first time he saw you. For showing that you deserve someone that will let you forget that your heart was broken.
Don’t waste your life holding on to the past. I promise “if you place your heart in the hands of God, he will place it in the hands of a man who he believes deserves it.”Heal yourself first, take some time to enjoy yourself and then don’t be afraid to get back out there. Not every guy is the same!