“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it may seem today. Life does go on and it will be better tomorrow.” – Maya Angelou
We have all heard the infamous saying: “Some people are in our lives for a season, a reason, or a lifetime.”
What happens when someone you thought would stay for a lifetime turns out to be only a reason?
I found myself in a relationship that I believed would last forever—a lifetime filled with shared moments, laughter, and love. But I was wrong. Instead of the forever I dreamed of, I found myself facing a heartbreak that took me completely by surprise. Life has a way of turning our expectations upside down.
As time went on and my healing journey began, I realized that this relationship was sent to teach me a lesson—a lesson in self-love. Though the pain was profound, it shaped me into the woman I am today.
Looking back now, I see clearly: that relationship was a wake-up call. It took time for the heartbreak to evolve into clarity, but when it did, I discovered something more enduring than lost love—I discovered myself.
When Heartbreak Leads to Discovering Yourself
I rediscovered my value, my worth, and, most importantly, my happiness. My prayer life and relationship with God grew stronger, offering me peace and perspective. What once felt like endless sadness transformed into gratitude. I became thankful for the experiences that unfolded during and after the relationship. Why? Because without them, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today.
God makes no mistakes. There was a reason the relationship ended, even if I couldn’t see it at the time. Often, we’re shown signs early on, but we choose to ignore them. Red flags can look like green flags when we’re determined to overlook the obvious signs. In fact, red flags can sometimes feel like Six Flags—a whirlwind of excitement and chaos that distracts us from the truth.
Perhaps God had to break my heart in that way so I could finally move forward because, for many of us, heartbreak is the only way we’ll let go and find the courage to step into the life we’re meant to live.
Perhaps their role was to strengthen my relationship with God, prepare me for someone better, or show me how to see my own worth. Whatever the reason I knew this heartbreak was not the end of the road for me—actually it was the beginning of something better. The journey of finding and loving me.
Moving Forward with Purpose
As you rebuild your strength, what felt broken is not destroyed—it’s being rebuilt, piece by piece, into something stronger. Now, you know what you desire, what you require, and how to put yourself first. You’ve learned that the love you’ve been pouring into others must first be poured into yourself, because finding yourself means never losing your identity in a relationship again.
It’s important to embrace the journey, no matter how difficult it may feel in the moment. Every heartbreak, every challenge, and every tear add to the resilience and strength you’re building. Sometimes, the path to finding yourself is paved with discomfort, but trust that it’s leading you toward clarity and purpose.
Focusing on yourself after heartbreak isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Start by dedicating time to rediscovering your passions and the things that bring you joy. Whether it’s journaling, working out, or simply spending time in nature, these moments are investments in you.
Protecting your heart means learning to set healthy boundaries. Reflect on the lessons from your past relationship and recognize what you will and won’t accept moving forward. Know that it’s okay to say “no” to anything—or anyone—that disrupts your peace.
Guarding your peace involves actively removing toxicity from your life, whether it’s a negative mindset or unhealthy relationships. Surround yourself with positivity and focus on creating an environment that nurtures your growth.
Remember, healing is a journey, not a race. Embrace every step and remind yourself that the greatest victory is rediscovering your worth and stepping into the life you deserve.
Let your story be a testament that heartbreak isn’t a loss—it’s a rebirth into the stronger, wiser, and more resilient version of yourself.
Your story has the power to inspire someone else who might be facing their own heartbreak. Share your journey with others, whether through writing, conversations, or acts of kindness. You never know who might need the reminder that finding themselves after loss is the greatest victory of all.
Keep your head up—things will get better. ❤️
xoxomissy 