#DearEx, I Am More Than What The Eyes Can See


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You don’t really know me. You never took the time to know me. You never took the time to understand me. All you wanted to do was admire my flowers. The beautiful parts of me. You never took the time to dig deeper. To see my roots. To show you the best parts of me that goes beyond the surface. You just fell in love with the beauty of me. You fell in love with what you could see. My flowers.

Flowers are beautiful and delicate. We love to admire their beauty but some flowers if you dig deeper than the surface. Connect with their roots you will see they have a story to tell. There are flowers that still need to grow and are not ready to be picked yet. Flowers that still need to heal. Flowers that need to be nourish. Flowers that are wilting and needs to be revive. There is more to a flower than what the eyes can see.


What will a beautiful flower be without its roots?


Once my petals started falling one by one. You slowly drifted away. You didn’t stay around to see my petals grow again. You didn’t try to understand that I’m more than my flowers. My roots are what actually defines me. They give my flowers, the beautiful parts of me that you enjoyed so much, life. My roots are the foundation of who I am.

From this day forward, a person can not and will not fall in love with only half of me. My flowers. Without connecting with the beautiful parts of me first which are my roots. From this day forward a person will and must love all of me because I am a flower who has more to offer than what the eyes can see. I’m a flower who will allow herself to grow, heal, blossom and be nourished. A delicate flower who deserves the best. A beautiful flower who will be appreciated for every single thing she has to offer. Roots included.


Stay Beautiful My Queen,

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– Poem inspired by this drawing –
* I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO THIS PICTURE *

6 Women In Their 20’s Give Relationship Advice To Other Young Couples

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Everyone has a different definition of what love means to them. I’ve had someone compare relationships to working a 9-to-5 job. Some have said love is one of the most beautiful emotions you will ever experience in life. Then you have some who says love is hard and painful. Relationships definitely aren’t easy but with work, patience and effort you can create something beautiful with that someone special.

I really enjoyed talking to these six ladies and receiving the amazing advice they gave me regarding their relationships. They have been in their relationships for a while and know exactly what it’s takes to maintain a serious relationship. If you are looking for great relationship advice look no further. Keep reading to see what these women ranging from ages 23-27 has to say about love and relationships.


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#1: We’ve been together for 3 years

What steps do you take to make the relationship feel “alive”?

  • Telling him how much he means to me, how handsome he is and remind him who he is in God. My boyfriend makes it a priority to carve out time for us. He often holds my hand, sits close to me, or cuddles me. Also, we found out our love languages. Once we started feeding each other our love languages the relationship started growing more!

How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?

  • We allow each other time (a couple of hours) to calm down and rethink.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • Don’t go into a relationship thinking it’ll change you or make you happy. The right relationship will expose your insecurities and help you grow. The right person will notice your worth and will do what it takes to keep you. Pray together and make your desires known. It’s important to communicate effectively. Compromising is key.

#3: We’ve been together for 10 years now

Why do you think you and your partner have made it this far?

  • We continuously evolve for each other into the person we want the most. Asking each other what we can do to make the other happy and satisfied. Trying new things and changing it up especially in the bedroom. Great chemistry, having a significant amount of things in common and laughter. We’re literally best friends who tell each other everything!! I feel that we’re made for one another. All the times that we’ve separated we always found a way back to each other. If that isn’t love and god then I don’t know sh**.

How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?

  • Trying to understand one another by listening to each other’s feelings and thoughts. Talking about issues before they explode into something that doesn’t need to happen. Also, not making each other’s feelings invalid to try and validate why we’re right about whatever the issue is. Listening and communication are the most integral parts of a relationship.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • Make alone time for each other, keep getting to know your partner, and don’t try changing each other or it won’t last. Change will occur if they want you bad enough but they’re only changing a few qualities. So, be understanding of who they are already!! When you fall on hard times remember why you fell in love and what you love about them most. Be faithful nothing hurts more than infidelity. Not everyone is disposable! Seek counseling if necessary. Be able to forgive, understand and move forward from experiences with your partner that might have been dissatisfying. Even if the relationship is in shambles be able to talk through it. It’s going to take more than a day to figure it out. You have to work at it so don’t give up so easily. It takes a lot of work to maintain a healthy relationship so always remember to communicate.


#2: We’ve been together for 1 year 5 months and counting

How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?

  • We’re still working on this but I would definitely say communication. It’s hard during conflict to let things go but try not to hold on to grudges and forgive each other.

What is helping you to stay together with your spouse?

  • We’re still together because we still want each other!! We enjoy each other and have fun together.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • No one’s relationship is the same so don’t compare. Communicate and keep intimacy in your relationship.

#4: We’ve been together for 1 year

How do you show love and appreciation to your spouse?

  • I’ll cook dinner often so that when he gets off he can have something to eat. I surprise him with random gifts. We still tell each other have a great day and to drive safely even if we’re upset with each other. Also, we buy each other’s favorite snacks…yes we are both fatties (lol).

How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?

  • We talk it out and try to see from both points of view, give each other space and try to look at the bigger picture.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • Trust each other, speak up if you’re feeling some type of way about a situation, have fun together and be fair. Try to have a mutual understanding of each other.

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#5: In a relationship for 1 year and 2 months

What are some important factors in your relationship?  

  • Love, laughter, friendship, and being completely comfortable with each other. Being able to bond and connect on a deeper level. Tons of laughs and fun by just being goofy, silly and roasting each other daily lol. We just really enjoy being together.

How do you deal with difficult times/conflicts?

  • By not yelling at each other. Instead, we listen to try and understand each other. Space is necessary sometimes because you don’t want to say something out of anger in the heat of the moment. So, walking away for a few to gather your thoughts and emotions can help. Praying also helps us as well.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • Healthy relationships are important!!! It’s hard to find a great woman/man so if you found someone who makes you genuinely happy then hold on to them. Every relationship will have its problems. Figure out what’s wrong and work on it TOGETHER. Also, when you’re spending time together stay off your phones and just enjoy each other with no distractions.

#6: 3 years in my relationship

How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?

  • Time, conflict resolution, and communication.

Why do you think you and your partner have made it this far?

  • Love. Definitely hasn’t been a cake walk but we’re still learning and exploring. We’re committed to continuing growing with each other by not giving up and being complacent.

What advice would you give to other young couples?

  • Have patience, don’t throw in the towel when the first argument comes up. Remember your morals and don’t settle.

Love,

“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary. – Oscar Wilde”

4 Signs That Your Friend Is Not Your Friend


1. Your friend never supports you.

“A friend is someone who accepts your past, supports your present and encourages your future.”

You’re always going above and beyond for your friend but you don’t receive the same treatment in return. A friendship should never be one sided. If you have communicated with your friend about the type of support that you need and they never follow through then that’s a red flag. There should be a balance of support between you two.


2. Your friend only calls when they need a favor.

“Some people will only “love you” as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends when the benefits stop.”

This is definitely a top three sign of a toxic friendship. Don’t allow a friend to use you for what you can do for them because that’s not the definition of a true friendship.


3. You can’t be yourself around them.

“Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t care about losing you…”

It seems as if you’re always walking on egg shells with this friend. They don’t appreciate you for who you are by always finding flaws and being judgmental. You shouldn’t have to dim your light or hide parts of yourself for a friendship. You’re friend should be accepting of who you are!


4. Your friend is disrespectful towards you.

“If they disrespect you to your face, imagine what they’re doing behind your back.”

If you have a friendship that feeds off of negativity, arguments, and sly remarks this is your warning to leave immediately. A person that is disrespectful towards you does not respect you. A true friend will never do or say anything that is disrespectful towards you. They will treat you with love, kindness, respect and they will not cross your boundaries. It’s better to have a friendship filled with positive vibes than a fake friends who don’t have your best interests at heart.


Love,

9 Simple and Fun At Home Date Night Ideas

Date nights are always fun! The great thing about dates is that they don’t always have to be done outside of the home. There are plenty of things that you can do inside the home to have a fun romantic night with your significant other.

If you are looking for simple, fun and cost friendly date night ideas then continue reading this blog. Feel free to add your own date night ideas below 🙂


1. Paint and Sip At Home

Are you looking to have a fun and creative night in? Look up tutorials on YouTube, buy a bottle of your favorite wine, purchase canvases/art supplies and enjoy your night in. If you prefer not to get messy then purchase adult coloring books for you both.


2. A Night Of Dancing

Nothing is more romantic then playing your favorite tunes and slow dancing in your partners arm. Create a playlist filled with your favorite music, decorate the space and set the mood with candle light. Enjoy the privacy and intimacy between you two in your own home.


3. Spa Date

Create a peaceful, relaxing and tranquil night for you and your partner. Who doesn’t love a good massage? Use your favorite massage oil (Edible Vanilla Massage Oils), turn on some relaxing music and enjoy each other’s company. It’s a great time to bond and relax with your partner while creating stimulating conversations.


4. Karaoke Night

What a fun date night idea. It doesn’t matter if you can sing or not. Karaoke always brings out the fun and laughter. Especially if there is drinks involved 🙂 Put on the tunes and start singing your hearts away.


5. Movie night

Yes, the good old fashion movie night. Let’s skip the long lines, paying for tickets and the expensive food at the concession stand. Create a movie atmosphere inside of your living room and just kick back in front of the television screen.


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6. Dinner For Two

Whenever there is food involved your bound to have a great night.Surround yourself with candlelight, rose petals, and your favorite playlist playing in the background. Tell your date to get dressed up for the night. Customize your own menu, order take out or you both can cook a meal together. Get creative for your romantic dinner night for two.


7. Game Night

Enjoy a night filled with laughs, fun and getting to know each other. Buy tons of board games, play truth or dare,d hide and seek or search online for date night games. Here are some game night ideas you could play Battle of the Sexes , Love & Naughty Stacking Tower , Cards Against Humanity , Watch Ya’ Mouth , Date Night Box Set and Never Have I Ever.


8. Picnic Date

Picnics are so cute and romantic. Purchase a Picnic Basket , grab a Blanket and your favorite snacks. You can enjoy your picnic indoors or you could take it out doors to your back yard.


9. Wine and Conversation

Life can get busy sometimes that you and your partner may not have the time to actually talk beyond the surface level conversations. Connect with your spouse on a deeper level by limiting all distractions such as cell phones and televisions. Take the time out to dig deeper into knowing more about each other. Play couple card games such as (Deeper Connections: Card Game for Couples) which will help to initiate the conversations. Cuddle up on the couch and build emotional intimacy with your spouse just by talking with each other.


Love,

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20 Affirmations For Self Love That Will Change Your Life

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“What you believe about yourself on the inside. Is what you will manifest on the outside.” – J.A.


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I am amazing and I deserve every great blessing life has to offer…

I am worthy of receiving healthy and pure love from others…

I am self love. I love myself more than anything and anyone…

I am a beautiful queen who deserves to be treated as one…

I am walking proudly and confidently in my purpose…

I am worthy of the life I’ve always dreamed of…

I am no longer settling for a life of mediocrity…

I am fearless and worthy of all my desires…

I am healed from all trauma and pain…

I am beautiful from the inside out…


“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself.” – I.V.


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Nothing will stop me from being the best version of myself…

My happiness is worth more than anything on this earth…

I can achieve all of my goals because I am unstoppable…

I will not define myself by other people’s standards…

I attract good things because I am a good person…

I will never settle for being second best…

I deserve to be treated with respect…

I deserve to be genuinely happy…

I was born worthy…

I believe in myself…


“I will have EVERYTHING my heart desires! If I believe than I can achieve.”

XoxoMissy

Love,

10 Ways To Love Yourself Every Day

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Have you spent time with yourself today? Self-love is necessary and extremely important. It is so easy to become caught up in everyday life that we neglect taking care of ourselves. We become so consume with filling the “cups” of our children, spouse, friends and family that we end up with nothing left for ourselves.

How can you give to others when you’re not giving to yourself? Start paying more attention to your needs and give yourself what everyone is requiring from you: love, time and attention.

Below, I have 10 simple self-care practices you can use on a daily or weekly basis to express love towards yourself. Make sure to comment down below any self love practices that you utilize. I look forward to reading them 🙂


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I Love Myself”: Love yourself before you can love anyone else. That person in the mirror deserves the love and respect that you’re willing to give to others. Don’t neglect pouring love and positive words into yourself daily!


Positive thoughts: Watch what you post, say, and think about yourself. Negative thoughts can manifest into real life and trick your brain into believing the false lies that your saying about yourself. It’s not an easy task to think positive thoughts daily but with work, patience and possibly seeking help from a therapist you can rewire your thoughts.


Take care of yourself:  We should strive to make it a priority to take care of our hygiene, appearance, physical, emotional and mental health daily. You have to take care of the body that you were given. From the clothing that we wear, the amount of sleep we get each night, being mindful of what we eat, the things we say to ourselves and so much more. You only get one body so take care of yourself from the inside out.


Forgiveness Forgiveness is the hardest self-care practice of them all! We are our biggest critics and often times forget that everyone including ourselves will make mistakes! Give yourself some slack and forgive yourself! Not only forgive yourself but others. A simple “I forgive you” can create a much needed breakthrough. Be easy on yourself and know that you are not perfect.


Compliment yourselfEncourage and remind yourself daily of how amazing you are. Letting yourself know “I look amazing today,” “You are so beautiful,” or “I appreciate you” can boost your self worth and confidence. Give yourself high praise for being the amazing person that you are.


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“Me Time”: “Me Time” consists of taking time out of your day (10min-1hr) doing something that you enjoy. It requires you to have a mental break from the stress of your day. Having alone time daily can help with avoiding burnout, frustration and can have great benefits for your mental health. Don’t feel bad taking time out for yourself everyday it’s necessary!


Surround yourself with positivity: Remove yourself from negative people and situations daily. Negativity can drain your energy. You will never be happy until you remove yourself from negative environments or people. Walk away from the coworker who just wants to gossip. Don’t answer the phone for the friend who’s only calling to place their baggage onto you. Stay off social media for a day. Love yourself enough to let go of situations and people that are hurting not helping you.


Spa Day: I take “Self Care Sunday’s” very seriously. After a long week of work you deserve an entire day where you cater to yourself. Bring out the wine, soothing music, light candles, and create a peaceful atmosphere for yourself. Exfoliate your skin from head to toe. Give yourself a manicure and pedicure. Treat yourself at least once a week.


Laughter: You ever heard the saying “laughter is the key to happiness?” I totally agree! Turn on a comedy movie and laugh your heart out. Call a friend or family member and reminisce about the good times together. Read funny jokes. Laughter is good for the soul.


Meditate and/or PraySpending time in silence is important because it allows you to release negative thoughts, emotions and energy. Your mind is clear, body is relaxed and the weight of the day has been lifted off of your shoulders.


Love,

“Love yourself first because that is who you will spend the rest of your life with.”

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