Everyone has a different definition of what love means to them. I’ve had someone compare relationships to working a 9-to-5 job. Some have said love is one of the most beautiful emotions you will ever experience in life. Then you have some who says love is hard and painful. Relationships definitely aren’t easy but with work, patience and effort you can create something beautiful with that someone special.
I really enjoyed talking to these six ladies and receiving the amazing advice they gave me regarding their relationships. They have been in their relationships for a while and know exactly what it’s takes to maintain a serious relationship. If you are looking for great relationship advice look no further. Keep reading to see what these women ranging from ages 23-27 has to say about love and relationships.
#1: We’ve been together for 3 years
What steps do you take to make the relationship feel “alive”?
- Telling him how much he means to me, how handsome he is and remind him who he is in God. My boyfriend makes it a priority to carve out time for us. He often holds my hand, sits close to me, or cuddles me. Also, we found out our love languages. Once we started feeding each other our love languages the relationship started growing more!
How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?
- We allow each other time (a couple of hours) to calm down and rethink.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- Don’t go into a relationship thinking it’ll change you or make you happy. The right relationship will expose your insecurities and help you grow. The right person will notice your worth and will do what it takes to keep you. Pray together and make your desires known. It’s important to communicate effectively. Compromising is key.
#3: We’ve been together for 10 years now
Why do you think you and your partner have made it this far?
- We continuously evolve for each other into the person we want the most. Asking each other what we can do to make the other happy and satisfied. Trying new things and changing it up especially in the bedroom. Great chemistry, having a significant amount of things in common and laughter. We’re literally best friends who tell each other everything!! I feel that we’re made for one another. All the times that we’ve separated we always found a way back to each other. If that isn’t love and god then I don’t know sh**.
How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?
- Trying to understand one another by listening to each other’s feelings and thoughts. Talking about issues before they explode into something that doesn’t need to happen. Also, not making each other’s feelings invalid to try and validate why we’re right about whatever the issue is. Listening and communication are the most integral parts of a relationship.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- Make alone time for each other, keep getting to know your partner, and don’t try changing each other or it won’t last. Change will occur if they want you bad enough but they’re only changing a few qualities. So, be understanding of who they are already!! When you fall on hard times remember why you fell in love and what you love about them most. Be faithful nothing hurts more than infidelity. Not everyone is disposable! Seek counseling if necessary. Be able to forgive, understand and move forward from experiences with your partner that might have been dissatisfying. Even if the relationship is in shambles be able to talk through it. It’s going to take more than a day to figure it out. You have to work at it so don’t give up so easily. It takes a lot of work to maintain a healthy relationship so always remember to communicate.
#2: We’ve been together for 1 year 5 months and counting
How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?
- We’re still working on this but I would definitely say communication. It’s hard during conflict to let things go but try not to hold on to grudges and forgive each other.
What is helping you to stay together with your spouse?
- We’re still together because we still want each other!! We enjoy each other and have fun together.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- No one’s relationship is the same so don’t compare. Communicate and keep intimacy in your relationship.
#4: We’ve been together for 1 year
How do you show love and appreciation to your spouse?
- I’ll cook dinner often so that when he gets off he can have something to eat. I surprise him with random gifts. We still tell each other have a great day and to drive safely even if we’re upset with each other. Also, we buy each other’s favorite snacks…yes we are both fatties (lol).
How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?
- We talk it out and try to see from both points of view, give each other space and try to look at the bigger picture.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- Trust each other, speak up if you’re feeling some type of way about a situation, have fun together and be fair. Try to have a mutual understanding of each other.
#5: In a relationship for 1 year and 2 months
What are some important factors in your relationship?
- Love, laughter, friendship, and being completely comfortable with each other. Being able to bond and connect on a deeper level. Tons of laughs and fun by just being goofy, silly and roasting each other daily lol. We just really enjoy being together.
How do you deal with difficult times/conflicts?
- By not yelling at each other. Instead, we listen to try and understand each other. Space is necessary sometimes because you don’t want to say something out of anger in the heat of the moment. So, walking away for a few to gather your thoughts and emotions can help. Praying also helps us as well.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- Healthy relationships are important!!! It’s hard to find a great woman/man so if you found someone who makes you genuinely happy then hold on to them. Every relationship will have its problems. Figure out what’s wrong and work on it TOGETHER. Also, when you’re spending time together stay off your phones and just enjoy each other with no distractions.
#6: 3 years in my relationship
How do you deal with difficult times/conflict?
- Time, conflict resolution, and communication.
Why do you think you and your partner have made it this far?
- Love. Definitely hasn’t been a cake walk but we’re still learning and exploring. We’re committed to continuing growing with each other by not giving up and being complacent.
What advice would you give to other young couples?
- Have patience, don’t throw in the towel when the first argument comes up. Remember your morals and don’t settle.
Love,
“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary. – Oscar Wilde”
xoxomissy 