“Some days are just bad days, that’s all. You have to experience sadness to know happiness, and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day, that’s just the way it is.” -Unknown
I called a great friend one day and expressed my frustrations with how my life was going at that moment. I was just so extremely tired of “bad things” happening.
Once I expressed all of my feelings, she simply told me “Everything in life happens for a reason. We go through things that shape us into who we are. How can you appreciate the good if you don’t experience a few “bad” moments? Those lessons in life are placed there to help us become the best version of ourselves. Hard times will help you grow.“
After our conversation, I knew I needed to change my mindset and take a look at those moments I deemed as “bad” and find small goods in every situation. I realized that it may have hurt in the moment but those painful situations weren’t meant to harm me but to help me instead.
For example, my sophomore year of college I had to experience what it felt like trying to survive with less than $10. The lesson I learned was that having a savings account and learning how to save money is extremely important. Now, I am in a way better place with managing and budgeting my personal finances.
A few years ago I went through one of the most painful breakups of my life. Eventually, I healed and realized that the breakup not only brought me closer to God but closer to myself. The lesson I learned was that I needed to love myself first before trying to love someone else.
The last example is about an old friend of mine who was my best friend for four years. The friendship ended without a warning or no explanation. I lost someone that I knew would always be by my side but the situation taught me that some people are in your life for a reason and some for a season. There was a reason why that friendship had to end but in that moment I couldn’t see the blessing in disguise.
I said all of that to say: If everything was good all the time we wouldn’t be able to appreciate life. Continue to push through the bad days because there will be sunshine after the rain.
Whatever adversity is currently in your life rather it’s emotional, physical, spiritual, financial or emotional. Embrace the lesson, then look at the blessings because you needed to experience that situation in order to grow. Some things aren’t meant to be understood. Take the lesson and learn from it.
I hope you understand that in order to enjoy and appreciate the sunshine you have to go through a little rain.
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there. — Theodore Roosevelt”