Why does it seem like everyone is finding their happily ever after but me?
Everyday on social media you see couples getting married, creating families, and buying homes. Although you are happy for them it’s a bittersweet moment for you. Seeing others being in happy relationships and you’re still struggling to find someone who is compatible with you.
You’re thinking about giving up on love and worried that you may never know what it feels like to upgrade from bridesmaid to wife.
Song of Solomon 8:4 states “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so delights…”
It’s so important to enjoy yourself during this season of singleness. Don’t look at singleness as being a bad thing because it definitely has its benefits. Enjoy this season while you can. Embrace the journey and give yourself the love that you desire from someone else.
This is the time when you can solely focus on yourself, create your own happiness, and become whole within yourself first before connecting with someone else.
Maybe love hasn’t come yet because you still have internal work to do. So, while waiting figure out who you are and reflect on any mistakes from past relationships so you can avoid them in your new relationship.
Get serious about what you want, need and desire from a spouse. Write down a list of Non-Negotiables that you will not tolerate in your new relationship. Unpack any unresolved negative feelings you may have towards men, love and relationships.
Become madly in love with yourself, constantly improving yourself and becoming the best version of YOU that you can be.
Always strive for self improvement and making sure you have yourself together mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially so that every great thing that you desire can come into your life.
The love that you are craving is on the way but it will only come when: 1) You are ready. 2) You aren’t looking. 3) Your happy with who you are. 4) You have done the self work.
Remember “What’s meant for you will always be for you no one can take that away.”
Your perfect person is somewhere out there waiting and preparing for you as well. Until you both find each other be content and happy in singleness. Continue to improve yourself in every aspect of your life.
Be happy with being the bridesmaid until it’s time for you to become the bride.
Believe in divine timing and know that love will find you when it’s time.