“If someone talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would have kicked them out of your life a long time ago!”
The things that we say about ourselves really do matter! Our words and thoughts are powerful. I know a lot of you may remember the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” As a child, I thought this was true until I found out that words actually do hurt. Words do have power and we should be mindful of what we speak into the atmosphere because it will have a tremendous effect on you.
I remember one day in my college psychology class, my professor passed around index cards and asked us to write negative things about ourselves. She then instructed us to turn the index card over and write positive things.
“Did you noticed how it was so easy to write down the negatives faster than the positives. I noticed the majority of the class took longer to complete the positive side than the negative.” She then asked us to have a transparent moment. “Now raise your hand if it was easier to write about the negatives then the positive?” Majority of the class including myself raised our hand. “If you wrote down more negatives than positives raise your hand?” The same amount of hands went up in the air. Why is it that we think so negatively about ourselves?
That day in class stayed with me. I wanted to change my thoughts around about myself. I wanted to see myself in a positive light because if you think negative thoughts you’re going to believe them. If you don’t value yourself people are going to pick up on that energy & you will continue to attract the same kind of people into your life. Why? because of the vibes that you’re putting out. If you don’t respect yourself why should they? Negative vibes attract negative people.
Think happy thoughts about yourself. Love yourself! I never knew how important loving myself, respecting myself and protecting myself was until I started to embrace myself. Once I started looking at myself in a more positive light, it became easier for me to let go of negative people and things in my life.
Now, don’t get me wrong I don’t have it all together. Who does? I’m still a work in progress but I’m glad that my thoughts have completely changed & I stopped being the “BUT” person. You know when you say things to yourself like: “I’m pretty but I wish my lips were smaller.” or “I love my body but I wish I had hips.” There was always a but after every positive thing, I said. I had to tell myself “girl, quit thinking negative all the time.”
So, I started writing and saying positive affirmations to myself “You are beautiful. You love your body. You are amazing.” I’ve also created a “positivity jar” which is filled with different scriptures, quotes, and positive affirmations. I download inspirational apps onto my phone such as Sprinkle of Jesus and #SelfishBae. These applications have amazing podcasts, quotes, and blogs that will help you learn self-love and how to become the best you.
I hope this post has helped at least one person! If so my job has been done.
Remember don’t be that “BUT” person. Your words do have power. Think happy thoughts about yourself. Speak positive affirmations into the atmosphere. No more being negative nancy! Let’s continue to grow in every aspect of our lives every day.
You’re AMAZING and WORTHY!