I’m used to keeping everything in. I rarely share my business or emotions with anyone. But, for this blog I wanted to be transparent with you guys. I’m going to be honest, it was kind of tough writing this blog. & I’ve shed a few tears in the process of writing it. But, I know there are people out there who just like me battled or is currently battling with low self-esteem, insecurities, and flaws. So, I’m writing this in hopes that I am able to help at least one individual.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…”
Hey beautiful! I know there are some days when you don’t believe it. Trust me I use to have those thoughts too. I had to learn that only focusing on the negatives and not the positives can lead to destruction. Speaking and thinking negative thoughts about yourself can really have an impact on an individual.
I was a victim of bullying in my younger days. I always let negative statements pollute my young mind. I used to wear glasses that according to my classmates were small for my eyes. So, I would stop wearing my glasses to school. Which was a DUMB thing for me to do because I am blind as a bat!! I would have to sit directly in front of the board in order to see. There were other things that occurred throughout those years which made me insecure about myself. I regret that instead of ignoring the negativity and being confident within myself. I tried to think of ways I could change my appearance. Thinking that would solve the issue. When truly it wasn’t my appearance that needed to change but my LOVE and CONFIDENCE for myself.
“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence…”
I’m here to tell you “Love yourself first.” Instead of listening to what others say about your looks. Walk with confidence and hold your head up high. If you are reading this and you are letting insecurities take over your life. Let’s start today by making a change. By IGNORE THE HATERS and being the best YOU! I wish I heard this advice a few years ago. I hate that I let what others say about me have such a great impact on my life.
If I could give my younger self any advice it would have to be “what other people say about you is their reality, not yours.” Instead of saying: “I am ugly, I am not worthy, and I hate my body.” Try saying “I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM WORTHY. I AM THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD.” My granny told me “people are ALWAYS going to talk about you.” So, I took that statement and said to myself since people are always going to talk about me let’s give them something to talk about. So, I learned how to fall in love with myself. Despite what the HATERS say. Literally look in the mirror and speak positive affirmations into the atmosphere. Learn to accept my flaws and all! Which honestly was the hardest thing ever!! When you’re use to thinking negatively of yourself it’s difficult trying to find positives to outweigh the bad. But, with hard work and time I love myself now more than ever.
“The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you’ll tolerate…”
My flaws make me beautiful! My flaws make me unique! & It took me a long time to understand this. What others used against me for the negative. I’ve turned it into something positive. To all of the people in the world battling with insecurities and confidence. Who deal with the questions Am I Good Enough? What’s wrong with me? Listen to the amazing Maya Angelou who states “nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” Despite what the haters say: You are beautiful! You are worthy! You were created for a purpose! Don’t let anyone take away your joy!! When I wake up in the morning I say to myself “You are beautiful. Adjust your crown and let’s get the day started.”
Continue to be the beautiful soul that you are inside and out. & forget what ANYBODY has to say you know WHO you are! Now, let’s show the world the beautiful and confident person that you are.