Hey Missy! I really need some advice. I am 23 years old and it’s time to move on from the pain in my past. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 3 years and he cheated on me. Not once but twice. He broke my heart and I don’t know how to give it to someone else. I’m scared that they will hurt me like he did. Can you please give me any advice on how to love and let someone love me again?
Hello love! This question is a tough one for me because I struggled with this for a long time. How do you let the hurt go and allow love back into your life?
In order to move on you must learn forgiveness. You have to forgive your past and forgive yourself! Not because of them but for your happiness.
I prayed every day. I prayed for myself and I prayed for him.
One day, I cried until all of the tears were gone, all of the hurt and pain were washed away. Until I could finally say to myself “I can’t do this anymore.” I can’t keep putting myself through this it is time to move on and start living life. That was the last time I cried over the past. I had no more tears left because I forgave myself, him and all of the misery I put myself through.
In order to love and let someone love you again you must first be ready. Ready to give your heart to another and willing to move on from the past. Don’t bring past hurt from other relationships because that can only lead to disaster. Go into the next relationship with a clean mind and heart. You could be missing out on a great man because you’re afraid to open up. Give him a chance because every man is different.
A great friend sent me a quote: “Sometimes a man’s purpose in a woman’s life is to help her become a better woman…for another man.”
You may not see it now but the hurt you went through will only make you stronger. Thanks to my ex-boyfriend I know what I deserve and what I want out of a relationship. So, instead of crying over your ex you should be thanking him. Thank him for showing that you deserve someone who reminds you of how beautiful you are. Thank him for showing that you deserve someone who will look at you every day like it’s the first time he saw you. Thank him for showing that you deserve someone that will let you forget that your heart was broken.
You are young and beautiful. Don’t waste your life holding on to the past. I promise “if you place your heart in the hands of God, he will place it in the hands of a man who he believes deserves it.”
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